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Social Status

I often sound like a broken record but I guess I am like Dori of Finding Nemo fame. Ideas that I have encountered previously pop up and I’m like “You look familiar.” I was driving to work today wondering how people get scammed by the same hustles over and over. I also was wondering how I continue to allow myself to endure disrespect, abuse and isolation. Unfortunately i did not motivate myself enough to remove myself from my current shit-uation but the idea that resurface is people want to feel exceptional.

Oh now I remember what sparked the idea. It was a song I was listening to on Youtube. In essence they guy was praying to God not to allow him to just be another nobody. I wondered, why would you not want to be like everyone else. In actuality you are almost identical to everyone else. Given the same geographic location, education, familial structure, and other environmental conditions you are almost the same as the other guy. That is why the kids in the upscale community have similar stats and they are different from the kids in poverty who have stats identical to other kids in poverty.

So why was this singer praying to God to make him exceptional? It is because we are social animals and we gain approval and validation from our peers and others. We need people to prop us up emotionally and psychologically.

I recently watched a nature documentary on a troop of monkeys in India. What it showed was the social hierarchy of the monkeys is deadly serious to the point where if you are of low social status you may starve to death. Just as we have a social order where crime and violence are shunned, the same translates to this and other groups pf primates. A monkey could simply grab the food from a higher ranking one but they do not. Their conformance to the social order causes them to starve to the point of death unless a higher ranking monkey authorities them to eat or adopts them and inducts them into the higher social class where they have access to the first share of food.

So the singer, a human, a so-called higher form of primate still lives by the primitive social constructs to which we all subscribe. The higher you are in status, the greater access you have to human resources. People who view you as deserving of special treatment, are invaluable. Soldiers fight and die based upon the imaginary social hierarchy that allows the commanding officer to order them to take that hill. A woman is able to extract resources from a man who works to wine, dine and gift her fine things, because he holds her of higher value than himself. In the case of a pimp, he is able to extract resources from a woman who most likely has suffered so much trauma she believes her social status to be very low.

We are social animals. All relationships are transnational. Therefore you can negotiate the profit margin in your transaction based upon your perceived social status in the troop. This to me explains the innate capacity for humans, especially myself to express Stockholm Syndrome, which people now call Trauma Bonding.

So now that we are aware of this, what is to be done? The benefit of a soicial order is the capacity to collaborate, but it is like the proverbial golden handcuffs which also debilitate.


Photo credit: Huxley, T. H. (1904). Science and education: Essays. JA Hill and company

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As long as my bitches love me

Drake has a song, I believe it is featuring the artists known as Future. Part of his chorus or hook is: “Long as my bitches love me.”

What Drake has known and proven, is that having validation from the female consumer is the most important thing to being successful in selling consumer products. B2B products on the other hand is male dominated end user environment.

Statistics show that approximately 75% of household consumption is done by women. Therefore when marketing a product, the largest demographic you should place your focus on, for sustainable sales, is the female consumer i.e. “bitches”.

Recently I read an article detailing how America’s consumerism causes a lot of waste and garbage. Approximately 68% of our economy is driven by consumers. Consumers eventually produce waste. China and other formerly developing-now first world countries are refusing to take our recyclable and non recyclable waste. Now towns in America are faced with the problem of the old method of dumping onto landfills and burning our garbage to get rid of it.

Landfills leach pollutants into the earth and eventually into the water table and in turn into the oceans. Burning waste releases carcinogens including PCBs and a multitude of hazardous materials into the environment.

If we care so much about the environment and claim to be “WOKE” why are we buying so much stuff? I may  have mentioned in previous post that 24% of women are on prescription antidepressants or some other psychotropic to cope with life. Coping mechanisms of the depressed and anxiety suffering include: retail therapy i.e. shopping, eating, social media and other methods of self medication. Saving, minimalism and frugality are associated with restriction which makes one even more anxiety prone. So more bags, more shoes, more trips, more unused exercise equipment, unused gym subscriptions, unused cosmetics are purchased as treatment for psychological, emotional and or chemical imbalance.

This extends even to partner to such a person. In a relationship with a consumerist. you must fork over gifts on birthdays, Christmas, valentines and mothers day or you will be abused psychologically, emotionally, socially, and possibly physically. You do not want to face the wrath of their anxiety so you must be economically exploited and abused in order to increase the social coins a woman collects from her peer group when she displays the gifts.

There is a connection between the female driven consumerist society and the destruction of the earth. All of the amazon boxes, Styrofoam peanuts, plastic airbags, silica packets, plastic adhesive tape and other packaging waste is reaching a critical point. I have not even mentioned the discarding of the actual products, but many articles have been written on the detrimental effects of fast fashion on the environment.

In conclusion this post may be invalidated as it is written by a toxic male. Fortunately or unfortunately facts are not relative to the messenger, they are just facts. The most important woman, mother nature, will eventually regurgitate the trash we are feeding her and destroy all human  life. Justice will be served. We will continue to delude ourselves that we can consume our way into happiness until we demand that the stereotypes of shop-till-you-drop, retail therapy, materialism be removed from media and elsewhere. Demand real solutions to anxiety, depression, loneliness and mental illness and not simply the treatment of symptoms or sedation. End our hypocrisy of being “woke” on the environment while simultaneously trashing it. As woman make up 51% of the global population, they should lead the cause to reduce consumerism, and it’s waste by-products, and legitimately help their sister, Mother Earth.

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